In AON: Family

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Dr. Shon Neyland is a Veteran of the Air Force, where he served 29 years. He is a minister, motivational keynote speaker, and licensed professional counselor, who has counseled over 4,000 couples and led over 45 marriage retreats. He was the Senior Pastor of the largest worship service in the Air Force with over 5,000 in attendance week. He has been married to his wife, Madeline, for 30 years, and together they have 3 children.

“We are more aware of negative things that trigger our partner and more open to seeing from each other’s point of view. We learned how to listen to each other, relate to how the other is feeling, and understand what they are trying to communicate.”

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In this episode, Dr. Shon Neyland—minister, motivational keynote speaker, and author of Loving When You Don’t Feel Like It—unpacks what it means to love your spouse unconditionally. If you do good things for your spouse but your heart isn’t in it, it is not unconditional love. Instead, do things for your spouse without thinking about it and without regretting it. Unconditional love is far more than a feeling; it is an action, a decision you must make every day. Think of your spouse as someone to protect and treat him as you want to be treated: with care and tenderness. Refuse to use negative words or tear her down; instead, seek to build her up.

Another facet of unconditional love is learning to forgive. As Dr. Neyland says, “Without forgiveness your marriage will end.” If you desire to reconcile with your spouse, or press the reset button, remember reconciliation is forgiveness plus trust. Trust is not built overnight; it is built through reliability. In other words, be transparent, keep your word, and follow through on what you say you will do. Every marriage can be saved, but it takes two committed spouses who are willing to learn and apply the principles.

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